1. They are too nice AND very vain. Usually, you cannot be nice and have a massive ego at the same time. Unless you’re a narc.                          
   
2. They attach to you very quickly and begin to “lovingly” push you to hasten the relationship process. Usually, a person with good intentions wants to take their time to get to know you and your life, enjoy their time with you and savor every moment. A narc wants to play their game quickly and move on to the next toy.                                   
   
3. This was one he handed me that I never saw anywhere as a red flag but it needs to be said. We know they don’t have feelings. They can’t care. If they can’t cry, run. Fake crying, telling you they physically cannot cry, etc. RUN.              
   
4. As said before, he handed me this red flag. They tell on themselves. He says he’s going to hurt you and that he always does that to people. He says his relationships always end around xxx amount of time, usually very short. They will tell you there is something wrong with them. Because you are a human and normal you will think they are being depressed or a defeatist. They are not. They are serious. He laid out the entire journey through hell for me to know is going to happen and I didn’t see it coming. They also tell you that you will be the one to leave them.
5. If they seem too perfect they probably are not perfect at all. That is not your dreams coming true. That is a trap.
6. They never have anything nice to say about former partners or family, only about certain friends. The kind you will find out later was a lot more than that behind your back.
7. “I could never be mad at you, you’re too perfect. You always will be no matter what.” Especially before they even say they love you.

Good luck. I’m still in the “no-contact being stalked” phase. If you made it this far you can make it all the way. Right, I feel like this is the end of my life and world. But I know it’s not. You have survived 100% of your worst day and you’re still here.