Observing Without Judgement Level 5
With this lesson, we are going to hone our Observations with people. As you may already know every thought emotion, and feeling in a person’s head comes out in a facial expression or a position of someone’s body. This is known as body language. Besides the body language, we also have the tone of someone’s voice whether they are laughing or crying. This lets us know how they are feeling or responding to the events in the world that are happening around them. We all are quite familiar with the tone of people’s voices quite rapidly as we are a small child. We always understand when Mom and Dad are unhappy by the tone of their voice. Even an animal can respond to the tone of your voice without having to understand a language.
We are going to be concentrating on laughter with this lesson. We will be learning how laughter lets us know exactly what a person is thinking and how they are feeling. We may have learned some of this intuitively, but let’s see if we can fine-tune our powers of observation. As with Observation we always take in information first without trying to understand it completely or passing judgment on it.
What we want to do is get examples of people laughing. We can do this on the internet. We can also sit in a group with friends and have each person give a different kind of laugh. You can listen to laughter from children, laughter from adults, or laughter from a comedy show. You can also go to a mall and sit quietly and listen for any laughter from the people who are shopping or working at the mall.
Listen very carefully to the pitch, pace, and power of every single laughter. Some laughs will come from the belly. Other laughs will come from the upper chest, and others with come from the back of the throat. The rhythm or staccato will change with every type of laughter. Some will start slow and increase speed, and others will start fast and gradually slow down. Carefully Observe the events and situations that are happening with every single laughter. Do your best to just take in information and gain a better understanding, and Observe without Judgement.
This may take you some time to watch different laughs in different situations with different people. Try to mimic and copy as many laughs as you can with the same pitch, pace, and power. This is very similar to a mockingbird.
Once you have observed a large number of laughs, then you want to gain a better understanding of the emotions and feelings that each of these laughs creates or expresses. As you copy or mimic each laugh yourself observe very carefully the emotions, sensations, and feelings that you are having. Record these laughs on an audio file, and then the next week's audio file give a description of the emotions and feelings that each laugh is giving. This is also an opportunity for you to work with your Tribe and you can discuss and come to a resolution of what each of these different laughs mean and how they make you feel.
There are over five hundred different emotions that we can be feeling. Joy, elation, sadness, despair, superiority, and inferiority, to name just a few. Each laugh will be expressing these emotions and letting others know how you feel about the world. When we are having a discussion with other people, especially when it involves things that are close to us, you will find yourself and your friends laughing. When you go to a wedding, a christening, or a funeral, there will always be laughter involved. Every single one of these events different people at different times will be expressing different types of laughter. Even at the wedding, the parents can give a laughter of despair or desperation as they feel that they are losing their child. Also at funerals, you may hear laughter of joy and elation when people consider the wonderful and amazing life that the person that passed away had.
As you get better and better at this you will find yourself feeling the emotions that are brought on by the laughter of everyone that is around you. This may be difficult to process at first, but with training, you will be able to handle the flood of emotions. You will also find that laughter comes from emotions that come on suddenly, quickly, and have a short life, on the other hand, crying comes up from emotions that come up over a longer time period, and you may carry these emotions with you for days afterward. You may have heard the expression “He laughed until he cried.” When the emotion is strong enough and enduring, you will cry.
You may have a child who has been wanting a puppy for a long period, and you finally give them a surprise of a gift wrap puppy. When they first open the box they may gasp in surprise, first into laughing and then move on to tears. Laughing or crying does not signify happiness or sadness. It is a release of emotions that lets others around us know their feelings. We are broadcasting our emotions so that others know that they can join our experience.
Now we want to move into a judgment. We can take all of the laughter that we have collected and we can understand what other people who are using them were trying to let us know. Were they trying to control us, were they trying to get closer to us? Were they trying to get further away from us? If we are going to use Judgement, we will have to decide, whether should we hug them, leave the room, or join in their laughter. Each situation requires a response. Does our laughter cause us to trust them or distrust them? Or does it let us know that they really don’t care?
People in a comedy club will laugh together, one person’s laugh will trigger others' laughter. If you want people in the room to laugh, you can put a plant in the center of the room who will laugh at the appropriate time, and with the appropriate laugh, and everyone listening in the audience will join in. This will help you get the attentiveness and the appropriate feelings from the audience. In The Human Condition, we tend to respond readily to the feelings and emotions of others. As long as the feelings and emotions are close to ours we will mimic the laugher.
This is why many TV shows in the 50s and 60s had canned laughter that they played with different events during the show. The helped the audience at home to understand the feelings the writers were trying to put across to them. How are you going to respond when you hear laughter? Are you going to examine what is going on and why they are laughing, and either join in or reject their emotions because they are not congruent with your own?
Listening to the laughter of others will help us make decisions on who we would like to have in our Tribes and what Tribes we want to be in ourselves. This will help us to realize when we are safe, and to understand when we may be in danger. It will help us to understand who is in love with us, and who finds us repulsive.
In the comment box please let us know your experiences with examining these laughters. Your understanding of this will help many others to grasp the concept and apply it in their lives as well. You are great and wonderful! Hahahahhahhahahahehehe
Kaivala Level 5 Unit 1
Written by Larry Wizzurd and Guru Stu
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